Being Multiracial, Being Me

I don’t know if you can tell by my blog entries, but I am multiracial. I am a proud mix of African-American, Native American, Irish, and Dominican. For years, I didn’t give my ethnicity very much thought. Growing up, I simply called myself black. It made sense to me. My Mom was black, as were all the relatives I was around- my grandparents, uncles, cousins. All of Mom’s friends were black. There was another reason involved. In those days, no one called themselves bi-racial, or multi-racial. There were usually five basic choices you had when it came to your race. White, black, hispanic, asian, and Indian. You couldn’t check more than one box. It had to be narrowed down to one. However, as I got older, and saw times begin to change, I decided to include the other races too, to make each of them an equal part of me. Now I check either each box of what I am mixed with, or the box that says “two or more races”. Does this bring controversy? I’m sure it does. Does society see me as black? Probably. I am black- partially, but not entirely. I do not define myself by the opinions or demands of others.

For the most part, my light-skinned complexion was not out of the ordinary to me, or anyone else. I’ve been told I look like a combo of Lisa Bonet and Nicole Richie. I couldn’t agree more. I’m even their same height. I was raised to have friends of all races, which I still do. My Mom specifically bought dolls for me of every nationality. They looked like one beautiful rainbow. I had the same interests as any typical girl. Watching my favorite TV shows, going on field trips, listening to music, gabbing on the phone, obsessing with my hair.. My first boyfriend was Hispanic, while the first guy I had a serious relationship with was Jewish. The guy I have been the closest with is African-American.

I did, unfortunately, experience the ugliness of racism. In second grade, my pretty blonde teacher only gave the white girls her picture. At one point, we lived in a predominantly black neighborhood. One day after returning home, we saw “white bitches” written in chalk on our front door. On the school bus, three new kids took a deep hatred towards me because they thought I was Hispanic. When they found out I was also mixed with African-American, their shame and embarrassment was horrific for them. Therefore, there were ignorant people who despised at least one of the races I am mixed with.

Was I hurt? Angry? Confused? Sure, all the above. However, I was able to move forward, and continue to be me. That’s right. Me. The one whose all-time favorite group is the Beach Boys, and one of their favorite films is “Waiting to Exhale”. The one who loves Mexican food, and Indian jewelry. When I see my freckles and nose, I see the Irish part of me. My thick hair is a mix of African-American and Native American. My features are definitely Latina. I have embraced it all.

I would encourage anyone to be proud of who are you, of how you look. Do not allow the hatred and unresolved issues of others to rob you of that gift. Hold your head up, and be the very best thing you can be- YOU.


~ by kmnnz on May 13, 2011.

12 Responses to “Being Multiracial, Being Me”

  1. Way to go!

  2. Very well written. A great inspiration!

  3. Great blog! As an African American and Asian woman, I’ve experienced my share of racism from different sides, but I’ve also learned to moved on. Luckily, I live in an area that embraces racial diversity (the Bay Area).

    • Thank you so much! 🙂 I’m so glad you liked it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me!

  4. Hi,
    Based on the data you have posted on this topic —
    I thought that you might also enjoy reading (and,
    perhaps, even sharing) the following information .
    Here is a brief COMMENTARY on … the constant
    misapplication (to the people who are of
    part-Black / Mixed-Race Lineage)
    of the racist ‘One-Drop Rule’**:
    [** NOTE: The racist ‘one-drop’ “rule” was made ‘illegal’
    in the U.S. in 1967 by the U.S. Supreme Court via the
    ‘Loving vs. VA’ case – where the U.S. Supreme Court ruled …
    — 1) All ‘Anti-Miscegenation’ Laws found throughout the U.S.;
    — 2) The racist ‘VA Racial Integrity Act’ (upon which most
    of the anti-miscegenation ‘laws’ were founded); and
    — 3) The (‘black-lineage mocking’ and exceedingly) racist
    ‘One-Drop Rule’ (upon which the ‘Act’ was based.)
    … as being ‘UN-Constitutional’ (i.e. illegal, banned, etc.).]
    … THE FACTS are as follows:
    1) It is often a surprise for people to learn that, in reality, there
    is actually No Such Thing As a “Light Skinned Black” person.
    2) Very few people seem to be aware of the fact that the term
    “Light Skinned Black” is really nothing more than a racist
    oxymoron created by Racial Supremacists in an effort to
    forcibly deny those Mixed-Race individuals, who are of
    a Multi-Generational Multiracially-Mixed (MGM-Mixed)
    lineage, the right to fully embrace and to also received
    public support in choosing to acknowledge the truth
    regarding their full ancestral heritage and lineage.
    3) The people who have been slapped with the false label and
    oxymoronic misnomer of “Light Skinned Black” person are simply
    Mixed-Race individuals — who are from families that have been
    CONTINUALLY Mixed-Race THROUGHOUT multiple generations.
    4) Seeing that every other Mixed-Race group is allowed the dignity
    of receiving support in having itself referred to by the term that
    it most prefers – the question becomes “Why should the
    situation be any different for those Mixed-Race
    individuals who are of an Multi-Generational
    Multiracially-Mixed (MGM-Mixed) lineage?”.
    5) If an MGM-Mixed individual would like to be referred to by the
    term ‘Mixed-Race’ (which is what they actually are) rather than by
    that of “Light-Skinned Black“ (a term, which, once again, has the
    racist-origin of being nothing more than an oxymoronic-phrase that
    was both created and coined by Racial Supremacists in an effort to
    try to deny these Mixed-Race people their right to and support in
    publicly acknowledging and also embracing their FULL-Lineage)
    there is no reason that they (like every other group on the planet
    — whether Mixed-Race or not) should not be allowed the right
    to choose the term that society uses in referring to them
    (and to have their full-lineage acknowledged within that term).
    — AllPeople (AP) G.i.f.t.s.
    Founder and Moderator of the following
    online Lineage-Discussion Communities

    • Thank you so much for sharing these facts! They are astounding!

      I just want you to know you are more than welcome to post more links, facts, and/or info. It is all very welcome here 🙂

  5. .

    Additional Links: =)


  6. .
    An additional comment on the (now-debunked)
    racist, reeking, odious, ODR (‘One-Drop Rule’):

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